Articles
Reading for a hard season
Written by the two of us, from the therapy room. Not quick fixes - these are the longer answers to the questions couples in crisis actually ask.
Feeling lonely in your marriage: what the loneliness is trying to say
There is a particular loneliness that only exists inside a relationship: lying next to someone you have known for years and feeling further from them than from a stranger. It deserves a better explanation than 'the love has gone.' Usually, something else is going on.
Should I stay or should I go? How to sit with the hardest question
It is usually asked at night, silently, next to a sleeping partner: should I stay, or should I go? We cannot answer it for you - and we would distrust anyone who claims they can. What we can offer is something else: a way to hold the question that stops it from slowly wearing you down.
A sexless marriage: what the silence in the bedroom is really saying
Few things in a marriage are carried more quietly, or more painfully, than a bedroom that has gone silent. And few things are explained more badly. Before you accept the usual verdicts - the spark is gone, we became roommates, this is just what long relationships do - it is worth hearing what the silence usually means from the inside.