Articles
Reading for a hard season
Written by the two of us, from the therapy room. Not quick fixes - these are the longer answers to the questions couples in crisis actually ask.
Signs your marriage is in crisis - and what they actually mean
Most lists of warning signs get one thing wrong: they focus on the loud signals and miss the quiet ones. After twenty years with couples in crisis, we would sort the signs differently - by what they tell you about where the relationship actually is.
Why you keep having the same fight - and why winning it never helps
Every couple has one. The fight that has been rehearsed so many times you could play each other's parts. The topic varies - money, the kids, that tone - but the choreography never does. Here is what we have learned about that fight in twenty years of watching it happen live, in the therapy room.
How to save your marriage when you're the only one trying
It may be the loneliest position in a relationship: you can see the marriage slipping, you are doing everything you can think of, and your partner seems to have stopped trying - or says nothing is wrong at all. Here is what we know about that place after two decades in the therapy room.