Articles
Reading for a hard season
Written by the two of us, from the therapy room. Not quick fixes - these are the longer answers to the questions couples in crisis actually ask.
Rebuilding trust after an affair: what actually helps, and what only looks like it
An affair does something few other events in a marriage do: it splits time into before and after. Whatever you believed about your relationship needs rewriting, and both of you know it. What happens next is less determined than the despair suggests - but it depends on getting a few things right that most couples, understandably, get wrong.
Have we grown apart - or have we just stopped looking?
It is one of the gentlest-sounding verdicts a couple can reach: we just grew apart. No villain, no affair, no shouting - only two people who woke up one decade into a shared life and realized they are strangers who know each other's coffee order. We would like to take that gentle sentence apart, because in our experience it hides more than it explains.
What happens to a marriage after children - and what nobody warns you about
Nobody warns you properly. You expect the exhaustion, the logistics, maybe the money worries. What blindsides most couples is something else: the person you loved is right there, closer than ever - and somehow the two of you have vanished. Just parents remain, running a small, beloved, relentless enterprise together.