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Reading for a hard season
Written from the therapy room. Not quick fixes - these are the longer answers to the questions couples in crisis actually ask.
Resentment in marriage: the slow poison, and what it is protecting
No one decides to resent their partner. It accumulates - a swallowed disappointment here, an unthanked sacrifice there, a hurt that was never quite worth the fight it would cost. Until one day you notice that you flinch at their touch, edit their sentences in your head, and cannot remember when the warmth went. That is resentment: love's silt.
Does couples therapy actually work? Two therapists answer honestly
We should be the last people to answer this impartially - couples therapy is our life's work. So let us compensate with unusual honesty: yes, it works, considerably more often than the cultural jokes suggest. And it fails in predictable ways that almost nobody warns couples about. Both halves of that sentence deserve your attention.
Does a trial separation help a marriage - or just postpone the end?
Maybe we need some time apart. The sentence usually arrives when everything else has been tried - a last resort that is half hope and half exhaustion. Whether it helps depends far less on the separation itself than on something most couples never establish before packing a bag: what the time apart is actually for.